One of my all time favorite actresses, Audrey Hepburn, is often quoted as saying:
“For beautiful eyes look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.”
This is certainly not Hollywood’s definition of beauty today. But all too often even the Church gets caught up in what “looks good” on the outside and pays no attention to what is inside. Jesus doesn’t want you to focus on how you or anyone else looks on the outside. Look no further than God’s ‘word to Samuel for his instruction…
“Looks aren’t everything. Don’t be impressed with his looks and stature…God judges persons differently than humans do. Men and women look at the face; God looks into the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7 (The Message)
We are distracted by looks and stature and we often judge the face and not the heart.
As a mom of two beautiful girls I am certainly thrilled when people tell me they are beautiful. But my joy explodes when others comment on their beautiful hearts!
How can you tell if you are distracted by the face? What is the difference between the surface and the deep parts of yourself or another? Let’s think about that…
Submission to anything or anyone other than Jesus looks like rebellion against Jesus and His Church. A heart of submission will praise Jesus! And a heart of submission will look past the imperfections and see the freedom, radiance, and purity of his Bride. Submission believes Jesus’ work in his Bride, in YOU, and your Brothers and Sisters is what makes us all beautiful. Rebellion doubts that work. Submission allows it.
Serving people to bring attention to yourself rather than Jesus keeps your focus on your own face or the face of others rather than Jesus. What will this make me look like? We all struggle with this! A simple change in that question to ourselves will help immensely, what will this make JESUS look like? Take the “me” out of it completely. Don’t worry about the “me”. Keep your eyes on the Groom as you serve others and they will have no choice but to see him too.
Simplicity has no heart if Jesus is not present. We only make things confusing when we take our focus off of Jesus in the name of keeping it “simple”. Simplicity is a single focus on Beauty beyond compare. When that beauty is in the room there is no room for any other distraction. When it is absent, EVERYTHING becomes a distraction because EVERYTHING competes to be the most beautiful… on the outside. Jesus must be in the room.
Solitude with yourself will leave you anxious and depressed no matter where you are. Seeking solitude without seeking Jesus will leave you desperately seeking to find something beautiful inside of you that simply isn’t there. I pray that as when you “seek to get alone with your own thoughts” those thoughts turn to Jesus and his love for you. Many of us girls find ourselves alone, face to face, with our body, our skin, our makeup, our hair, our clothes, our shoes, our jewelry, and our own words or the words of others. This solitude does not lead to beauty. Bring yourself alone, face to face with Jesus and your heart will be transformed.
Today, all eyes on The Groom in submission, service, simplicity, and solitude… your beautiful heart will be noticed. And the One who loves you most will be “wild for you”. (Psalms 45:11) Keep your eyes on Him!