“If you cling to your life, you will lose it; but if you give up your life for me, you will find it.” Matthew 10:39 (NLT)
This week we move on to the “yes” of the soul!
Our consultations with brides and grooms regarding the ceremony schedule gave away a lot of crucial information about their relationship. I honestly didn’t care one way or the other if they wanted a first look… or if flash photography was prohibited… or if we were not allowed on stage during communion. But we knew what kind of marriage was ahead based how the unity candle ceremony would unfold. Would they blow out their individual candles or not?
The Message Bible translates Matthew 10:38-39 like this: ““If you don’t go all the way with me, through thick and thin, you don’t deserve me. If your first concern is to look after yourself, you’ll never find yourself. But if you forget about yourself and look to me, you’ll find both yourself and me.”
The reason most couples had for not blowing out their individual candles was understandable, our individual qualities and quirks remain with us even after we become one in marriage. Likely, those unique parts of us are what our husbands fell in love with – it would be sad to lose them. But we must not cling to them and keep them for ourselves. In marriage we give all of what we are to each other so we can win at life.
Jesus wants all of us too. And that is what saying “yes” with all your soul means. The “heart yes” can be kept inside of you, but the “soul yes” will be noted by others and it will affect them. In fact if your “yes” goes no farther than your heart, your heart will be in danger of being stolen by another. You must also give Him your soul or else lose everything.
It’s hard to keep two candles burning. Today if you are attempting to maintain two flames – yourself and your relationship with Jesus – both will eventually die out. Let your candle go out and trust Him to keep you alive and burning brightly IN HIM. Keep your eyes on The Groom!