My name is Lynette.
My parents met in Hawaii. My mom is Native Hawaiian and my dad is French Canadian but he was born and raised in the Ozarks. He joined the Navy when he was 17. He was stationed in Hawaii and that is where he met my mother. They were married in 1968. My oldest brother Jay was born in 1969 and then three years later in 1972 my other brother Joe was born. Shortly after he was born my parents moved state side. My dad had a job waiting for him at the railroad in Springfield, Missouri. In 1975, my sister and I were born. Life in the Vigneaux household was never dull. My mother loved us all so very much. She showed us unconditional love. She had no problem apologizing when things were hard or when my dad would get mad and fly off the handle. She showed us how to love others that are hard to love. We went to church every Sunday and Wednesday. My mother sang in the choir no matter where we attended church services. My most memorable moments at church were always at Christmastime because that is when my mother sang Silent Night in Hawaiian. It was one of the most beautiful songs I had ever heard and my mother always sounded like an angel when she sang. She is a beautiful person. She is my mother but she is also one of my best friends. My dad was a hard man but a hardworking man. He always made sure that his family was taken care of and we always had everything we needed.
Though we were at church a lot my relationship with Jesus was not solid. Sometimes I was full on for Christ and was made fun of for it and sometimes I ran from Christ. When I would ask my parents why it was important to save myself for my husband or I asked why I should worship Jesus with my whole life the answer was always, “because I said so”. That worked when I was a young girl but as a teenager that didn’t work for me. So by the age of 15 I just didn’t care anymore. I rebelled against my parents and against God. I knew what I was supposed to do with my life but I didn’t want to wait for God’s leading. I decided my life was my own and I could with it whatever I liked.
Was I ashamed of the things I did? Yes! But I didn’t know what else to do. I didn’t feel like I was getting the answers I needed. So by the age of 17 I was drinking, smoking, getting high on drugs and then I got pregnant. When I found out I was pregnant all the partying stopped. I told my parents and I broke their hearts. My dad was very supportive but my mom was very upset. But when Davontee was born everything changed for my parents. He was my dad’s pride and joy. My parents spoiled him rotten. They still do and he is 21 years old.
I continued in my promiscuity and eventually became pregnant again – I had an abortion. Then I got pregnant again – I had another abortion. But with the second abortion I felt shame and guilt. Loneliness captured my heart. I drank more and smoked more weed. Had more and more sex with whomever I felt like having sex with and I hated myself.
Then in the middle of all my mess I got pregnant again, but I was on birth control at the time so I thought God allowed me to get pregnant. I decided I wouldn’t have another abortion. Instead, I gave birth to a baby girl. I moved back in with my parents when I got pregnant with her and that was very hard on us all. But by my mom helped me wake up. She made me take care of Maile and Davontee like a mother should. So I went to college full-time and worked while raising and caring for my two children with the help of my family.
I met my husband, Jason, in April of 1999. We met through mutual friends as pawns in their game with one another. We became fast friends and started dating two months later. Though we weren’t living for the Lord we both knew that we would be together forever. Six months into our dating relationship Jason and I decided to go to church. A couple of weeks later we both received Christ as our Lord and Savior on a Wednesday night. That Wednesday night the pastor began the service with an invitation to receive Christ. He asked the congregation, “If you were to die tonight, do you know for sure you will go to Heaven or will you spend eternity in Hell and away from God?” I knew without a doubt I had not accepted Christ’s gift of salvation. So right then and there I went forward to the altar, with Jason by my side, and we both gave our lives to Christ. Until that time I had never felt such freedom in my life. It was like all the weight on my shoulders was lifted. I felt like doing a back flip because I was no longer weighed down by my sin. The next month Jason proposed marriage to me and I accepted and in March of 2000 we were married and baptized together.
Jason was 19 years old when we got married. He loves Devontee and Maile as if they are his very own. He never treats them any differently from the two children that we have together. Jonah was born in 2001, and Nakoolani joined us in 2003. The Lord knew what He was doing when He gave me Jason. Jason is my best friend. He loves me unconditionally. He shows me everyday how much he loves me by taking care of me and our children. God uses Jason to show me how much He loves me. Jason loves me as Christ loves His church. He has shown me what it is like to be a man after God’s own heart and how to love someone. He is truly my best friend…he is my gift from God!
God has and continues to bless us with His grace and mercy everyday. When I gave my heart and life to the Lord, His love overtook me. He took all the guilt and shame that I had felt from all the mistakes and sins that I carried for years and He turned them into beautiful ashes. He took every tear that I ever cried and bottled them up and He forgave me. His presence has always been with me. He has never left my side. Knowing this truth makes it so easy to hand my life over to Him – to follow Him. He has and always will protect me and shield me from all harm. What the devil meant for destruction – God turned into something good and He gave me a story to share with others.
My anchor verses:
Psalms 18:1-3 (NLT) “I love you, Lord; you are my strength. The Lord is my rock, my fortress, and my savior; my God is my rock, in whom I find protection. He is my shield, the power that saves me, and my place of safety. I called on the Lord, who is worthy of praise, and he saved me from my enemies.”
Psalms 139:13-14 (NIV) “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
2 Peter 1:3-11 (NLT) “By his divine power, God has given us everything we need for living a godly life. We have received all of this by coming to know him, the one who called us to himself by means of his marvelous glory and excellence. And because of his glory and excellence, he has given us great and precious promises. These are the promises that enable you to share his divine nature and escape the world’s corruption caused by human desires. In view of all this, make every effort to respond to God’s promises. Supplement your faith with a generous provision of moral excellence, and moral excellence with knowledge, and knowledge with self-control, and self-control with patient endurance, patient endurance with godliness, and godliness with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love for everyone. The more you grow like this, the more productive and useful you will be in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. But those who fail to develop in this way are shortsighted or blind, forgetting that they have been cleansed from their old sins. So, dear brothers and sisters, work hard to prove that you really are among those God has called and chosen. Do these things, and you will never fall away. Then God will give you a grand entrance into the eternal Kingdom of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.”
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